My name is Mike Perry

I just graduated from Cal State University, Fullerton. I am a 1st gen, single dad, and veteran. A few of my biggest hurdles were navigating the age difference and getting back into the groove of a school setting. A 25-year absence from sitting at a desk and taking notes from a teacher is a bit of time. I started my educational path with some remedial classes to get me back in the flow. I felt no shame in this. My approach was If I were going to go to college, I wanted to understand what I was learning rather than just try to squeeze by. And I’m so glad I did that.

Before my first semester on my higher educational journey in 2019 at Rogue Community College in Medford, Oregon, I was worried about peer judgment and alienation. However, I knew the only thing I could be was myself, and that’s what I did. I even helped classmates via Zoom with Statistics. It wasn’t my strong point, but they asked for help so that I would help as best as possible. I was able to make some connections, and the anxiety was starting to lessen.

However, I’d be lying if I said that all went away. Within each class in my human services program, I have learned more about resilience, inner strength, and reflection, which have helped me carry through my time on campus. Not to mention the importance of self-care. As a male who practiced many toxic traits, before I knew about my toxic behaviors, self-care and self-reflection were non-existent. Yet, through my higher learning, I have gained immense benefits from understanding both aspects.

As a single Dad, my priority has always been my daughter. And I never wanted to let her down. I’ve done my best to provide where I can during this journey. Even though the schooling is paid for, living daily wasn’t always easy. I even had to move back in with my parents after my divorce because it was just too much for me to do alone. And I knew my daughter was feeling the strain of my schooling, I just didn’t understand how yet.

However, a few years back, when she was in the 5th grade, I walked in on her helping her friends with math on a Zoom meeting. She was helping 2 of her friends with math! Math! The subject she said she hated! I was so proud and amazed that I asked her,” This is so awesome that you’re helping your friends out. What made you decide to do this?” And I’ll never forget her reply:” Well, I saw you helping your friends with math. And I want to be helpful like you.”

My struggles ended up shaping me into a man and a better dad. I am grateful for my college journey, the people I’ve met, the friends I’ve made, and, more importantly, the wider aspects of life ive missed most of my life.

So, If you are considering returning to college, I’m here to tell you…

Go! You will do great! Yes, There will be an adjustment or 3, and that’s ok. You will find your groove! Every day alive is a chance to change it for the better.